In the life we live today we live for different reason purpose, either a purpose we are built for, a purpose we are meant for or a purpose we adopt because understanding yourself it’s a building foundation which the purpose will come to rest upon.
Over time life push positive and negative things at us but we don’t have an understanding view or knowledge of our self to scale through those challenges and that why some of us mismanage the situation and end up crashing Because we don’t understand ourselves.
Am going to be talking about some key point of building and understanding one’s self
- Challenge: Can either be positive or negative challenges, the positive challenges of what made you comfortable when you had nothing and going through pain and rejection make you get a better understanding of yourself and the Negative challenge of what made you restless when you had nothing and going through pain and rejection that also makes you a better person.
- Discovering your motives and what drives you: Some people still yet to discover what part of them that keep them going. You have to discover what drives you and works on it if it’s something Negative.
- Weakness: Every entity on earth has a weakness but the point is what was your strength during the days of your weakness “ A leading Best Student Who was squirting from place to place and had no money to afford a house was insulted by a friend one day you are a whore a fool busy squirting from one place to another you should quit schooling with a smile the leading student replied But am still the overall leading best student in the school” That was where her strength came from, sometimes when we are weak we just give up on the situation which is not supposed to be we have to look for our strength when we are weak.
- Strength: In life this what sustain us also its an aid of understanding ourselves through our strength when a rich man discovers at a point of his life that he can buy anything material things in the world for anybody but seems to forget that in the next couple of days or month he can lose the riches. It’s not about what your strength is its about what keep your strength going and strong.
- Staying silent and replaying your life: Moments of silent are always the best way and the best state of every being life need silent for you to think like a professor once said ears are two while the mouth is one and that gives the mouth sometimes to remain silent. Ask yourself this three questions Where am I at the stage of life? Where was I at the initial stage of life? And thirdly what is the next stage of life for me? It so funny that people don’t take a minute or two daily to ask ourselves this questions. Because it’s amazing what we can do when our passion meets a purpose Greater than ourselves.
8 Ways of Building a Better Relationship
Love is perhaps our most powerful emotion, and the need to be in a loving relationship may be one of the strongest needs we have. Being in an intimate relationship makes us feel connected, not only to our partner, but also to the world at large. When our hearts are filled with love, we feel profoundly content and satisfied. We become more patient, more empathetic, kinder, gentler.
But personal intimacy doesn’t merely affect our emotional well-being. According to numerous scientific studies, the power of love directly affects our physical health, too, by boosting our immune system, improving our cardiovascular functioning, and increasing our life expectancy. “Love and intimacy are at the root of what makes us sick and what makes us well,”. “When you look at the scientific data, the need for love and intimacy is as important and basic as eating, breathing, and sleeping.” Here are tips to make a relationship a better one:
1. Encourage your partner to be more open with you
Sharing more of your emotions with your partner and encouraging your partner to do the same with you will help strengthen your bond. Make it a habit to confide in each other every day. Some opening questions for confiding in your partner include:
“Remember when we used to go walking and talking around the neighborhood, walking the dogs together? Let’s do that tonight… How about it?”
“What happened yesterday between us didn’t go so well, and I want to try another way — can we start over, and this time I will take some deep breaths and listen more patiently. I also want to say what works better for me and find out what you are hoping for.”
2. Be considerate of each other’s needs
In order to move forward in your relationship, you will both need to learn how to understand each other’s needs. The best way to uncover what your partner needs, and let them know what you need, is to talk about it.
If you are not sure what your spouse wants or needs, the best way to find out is to ask questions and listen. If you still are not sure, ask more questions. For example, you could say something like, “I think that what you need from me is ________. Is that what you mean?”
3. Appreciate each other
Showing appreciation through sincere compliments is an important part of a healthy relationship. Make sure that you and your partner are aware of the importance of complimenting each other and that you both know how to do it well. Good compliments should not only be sincere and specific, they should also be phrased as an “I” statement rather than as a “you” statement. For example, if your partner cleans the kitchen, don’t say “You did a nice job of cleaning the kitchen.” Instead, say “I appreciate that you cleaned the kitchen.” Using I instead of you lets your partner know how you feel, not just that you noticed.
4. Ask your partner to commit to change
If you decide that you are ready to move forward in your relationship with your partner, you should ask your partner to promise you that they will not follow the same pattern of behavior that led to the affair. Ask your partner to articulate or even write out what that behavior includes and commit to change.
5. Establish consequences to deal with the possibility of another affair
Since there is a possibility that your partner may cheat again, you should work together to establish consequences for another affair. These consequences may include things like divorce or other repercussions. You may want to get these consequences in writing and work with a lawyer to make them legally binding.
6. Get Physical
Physical intimacy is a natural — and healthy — extension of a relationship. Our best sexual intentions are often put to rest, however, as we collapse into an exhausted heap at the end of the day. Instead, you and your partner need to consciously commit to turning up the heat. Leave the dishes in the sink, turn the laptop off, and just do it! Set the mood with the sensual music, and light some calming aromatherapy candles or incense. Learn to communicate your loving energy through touch.
7. Listen Carefully
Being an attentive listener lets your partner know that his or her thoughts and feelings are important to you. Moreover, good listening encourages partners “to open up and be willing to share,” is not just to “hear” what your partner is saying, but to be truly “present,” having a heartfelt desire to understand what is being said and listening without being judgmental.
8. Know when to end the relationship
This is the last stage,nobody pray for it,if things don’t improve despite all of your best efforts and the help of marriage counseling, you may have to accept that the relationship cannot be repaired. Signs that the relationship may be beyond repair include:
• Constant fighting..
• Inability to connect with your partner.
• Inability to empathize with or receive empathy from your partner.
• Hurt and anger that does not subside with time.
• Inability to forgive your partner
“My biggest fear in life is not being alive to take care of my kids” – Mercy Johnson
Mother of 3 and Nollywood actress Mercy Johnson has revealed to the world her greatest fear in life. Taking to her Instagram page, she shared adorable photos of herself and her kids in matching outfits.
The gorgeous actress went on to caption the photo with a quote where she wrote about the joy of motherhood ahead of ‘Mothers Day.
Because it’s almost Mothers day and I can’t wait plus Henry keeps saying Happy mothers day mummy since last week
TGIF, she wrote.
Six Rules to a happy marital life
A social media user on Twitter took to his handle to share six rule in guiding a peaceful marital Affair.
The man identified as Ryan Stephens said he and his wife have decided to drop the idea of trying to be soulmates and focus more on being teammates.
He shares six rules he and his wife follow to ensure a stable and blissful marital life.
Read thread below.
Praise shows off his Adorable son on Social media
#BBNaija: Laycon Become the first Housemate to Hit 1M followers on IG
UEFA Champions League results, quarter final line-up, updates
#BBnaija: Day 20 Saturday Party Night
Demolyno Hypocrite Mp3 Download
Inspector General of Police Shuns Aisha Buhari
Former Nigerian Beauty Queen, Ibidun Ighodalo, Passes Away
Click On the Photo To Trade Your Gift Cards and Bitcoin With Us
Demolyno Hypocrite Mp3 Download
Nigerian fast raising artist has dropped a new jam titled Hypocrite. The proud Abeokuta born Demolyno took to the studio...
Lil Frosh – Thick Talk Mp3 Download
Lil Frosh Thick Talk is one of the song from Davido Music Worldwilde record label as the rap Guru give...
B-Red – “Dance” ft. Mayorkun Mp3 Download
Making his way back to line lite Former HKN Gang singer B-red has dropped another song “Dance” Featuring Mayor of...
Hycent – “Ororo” (Remix) ft. Jaywon x Erigga Mp3 Download
Fast raising Nigerian singer Hycent has dropped a remix of his song “Ororo” Featuring Jaywon, and Erigga. Thinking of a...
9ice – “Zaddy Zaddy” (Prod. by Young Jonn) Mp3 Download
9ice – “Zaddy Zaddy” (Prod. by Young Jonn) was dropped by Alapomeji Ancestral Records and produced by Young jonn the...
Download Oladips – “Tusi” (Prod. by AYKBeats) Mp3
Oladips – “Tusi” (Prod. by AYKBeats) is a hit to start the year with as the former ibile artist has...
Travis Scott Highest in The Room mp3 Download
Travis Scott Highest in The Room mp3 Song Download. The talented Epic records signed American rapper Travis Scott hit back...
Odumeje ft Umu Obiligbo Mp3 Download; All Songs List
Odumeje ft Umu Obiligbo Mp3 Download; Here is the link to download Odumeje latest album which features Umu Obiligbo; All...
Bella Shmurda – Colodia Drive Us Mp3 download
Bella Shmurda – Colodia Drive Us Mp3 download. Nigerian fast raising upcoming singer Bella shmurda has dropped a single titled...
“Down Gbese” X Hojay Mp3
Nigeria Based Talented Song writer and artist, “Okunade Ayodele Sunday ”with stage name as HOJAY, also one of the Top...